IF you’ve been figuring out to make your 30s powerful, then I’m sharing a personal how-to because I’m going to turn 37 in a weeks time and I’m still trying to figure out how to do right by “me.”
The mind, body and soul needs different things in different stages of life.
A better approach is to use these early years of your life, and yes, your 30s are still early – to position yourself for a wholesome time to make your 30s powerful that will follow through your 40s, 50s, and even 60s. Inshallah!
STARTING SAVING NOW!
I spent my 20s like a queen, so I didn’t foresee the future in my 30s and what my mother used to say about retirement or how I should save for some security in my life.
So this is what my mother told me:
- Pay all your debts asap and make it a top priority
- Always have something in backup because problems can arise anything in the form of health issues, a bad marriage, a business loss etc.
- Keep a savings account without telling anyone and put some amount every month
- Don’t invest in anything you don’t understand!
MAKE YOUR HEALTH A TOP PRIORITY
You won’t notice it but your health will deteriorate faster than you think and you won’t notice it until it will hit you! We know how all that happens and the things we hear like to eat better, sleep on time, exercise regularly etc.
Let me tell you that it wont happen suddenly, actually your body has been breaking down for a while now, it’s just that the breakage is slow. Diabetes, blood pressure, joint issues and chronic pain, so if you haven’t been taking care of yourself in your 20s, it’s not too late to start now and making that change.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO RESET
“While by age 30 most feel they should have their career dialed in, it is never too late to reset. The individuals that I have seen with the biggest regrets during this decade are those that stay in something that they know is not right. It is such an easy decade to have the days turn to weeks to years, only to wake up at 40 with a mid-life crisis for not taking action on a problem they were aware of 10 years prior but failed to act.”
Relationship, career or financial situations, I don’t think we’ve got things figured out. And when you are passed the age or have entered “adulthood”, resetting, to make things right for you in 30s isn’t a bad move.
SPEND TIME WITH PEOPLE WHO MATCH YOUR VIBE
Setting healthy boundaries is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself or another person.
But what does that even mean?
Stop tolerating people who don’t treat your right. Tolerating them for financial and emotional reasons, or where kids are involved, or if you find it convenience – then DONT!
I vowed to myself that I wouldn’t tolerate being miserable and be around people who drain my energy, and surround myself with people who make a better version of myself, that bring out your best parts, love and accept you.
When we’re in our 20s, the world is so open to opportunity and we’re so short on experience that we cling to the people we meet, even if they’ve done nothing to earn our clingage. But by our 30s we’ve learned that good relationships are hard to come by, that there’s no shortage of people to meet and friends to be made, and that there’s no reason to waste our time with people who don’t help us on our life’s path.
FOCUS ON A FEW THINGS AND DO THEM WELL
I’d tell my 30-year-old self to set aside what other people think and identify my natural strengths and what I’m passionate about, and then build a life around those.
In a word: focus. You can simply get more done in life if you focus on one thing and do it really well. Focus more.
Focus on achieving your goals. Don’t get distracted. You have to accept that you cannot do everything. It takes a lot of sacrifice to achieve anything special in life.
A few readers noted that most people arbitrarily choose their careers in their late teens or early 20s, and as with many of our choices at those ages, they are often wrong choices. It takes years to figure out what we’re good at and what we enjoy doing. But it’s better to focus on our primary strengths and maximize them over the course of a lifetime than to half-ass something else.
I’d tell my 30-year-old self to set aside what other people think and identify my natural strengths and what I’m passionate about, and then build a life around those.
