I know how it feels when you get the silent treatment – it’s the worst feeling ever. You find yourself in a constant state of doubt and question your thoughts and moves, thinking “what did I do wrong” to deserve the silent treatment.
Why do men do that? Giving you the cold shoulder, shrugging you off like you don’t exist, while I would love to give you tips on how to manage the silent treatment, know every situation is different. And if you’re still in the stage of figuring out what’s going on, here are 7 common reasons why he’s giving you the silent treatment.
HE’S AWFUL AT COMMUNICATING
When it comes to communication, the adage ‘men are from Mars, and women are from Venus’ holds true. So, instead of saying something that could get him in trouble, he’d rather stay quiet and unknowingly give the silent treatment.
HE WANTS TO CONTROL YOU
Typically guys can control you simply by NOT talking to you. When your guy chooses to keep mum instead of talking to you, your self-worth will eventually suffer. And you rely on him so he knows. For example, he won’t talk to you until you apologize (even though it wasn’t your fault).
WHEN HE’S GUILTY FOR HIS ACTIONS
You fought, and he knows it’s his fault. But instead of owning up to it, he’ll do the silent treatment. He knows it’ll create tension and prevent him from admitting his mistakes – at least for the time being.
HE DELIBERATELY WANTS TO MAKE YOU FEEL LEFT OUT
Giving the silent treatment will make you feel otherwise. It can make you feel excluded, ostracized even and therefore is a form of violence. It’s a clever trick he’s doing this to push all your buttons – without necessarily placing a hand on you.
MAYBE HE’S TIRED OR BUSY
He just got back from and is simply nodding when you try to engage in a conversation with him or he’s super busy at work and wants to relax when he’s with you. What may seem like a silent treatment is his way of unwinding.
IT’S OUT OF SPITE
Some guys end up harboring spite because of these events. And, as revenge, they think of doing a cruel thing that’s only short of physical violence: the silent treatment. It cruel and hurtful and happens very much.
HE FEELS UNAPPRECIATED
Guys love when they ladies trigger their secret hero syndrome and is ingrained in their DNA. So when he feels unappreciated, he shuts down. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to appreciate them.