We’re sharing some tips to stop judging other people because, let’s face it’ we judge, everyone does, BUT the question is, where is all that judgement and negativity coming from?
The moment you step out of the box that society has made for you, you become target to undue judgment and bitterness. I wonder if we were always like this?! Hmm! So what’s the way forward to stop judging other people?
Anyway, if you’re someone like who wishes to stop judging other people (because you don’t mean to do it), and want these thought to stop coming (even automatically), here are 7 tips to stop judging other people!
ASK YOURSELF “WHY” AM I JUDGING OTHERS
Ok, so judging is not something you do naturally, negative or bothersome feelings towards occur probably when you feel lacks in you, or something that’s broken inside of you such as insecurities, so you feel the need to question others on what they do or how they do just about anything.
So, maybe ask yourself that, what are you insecure about, and what part of yourself are you making feel better by putting someone else down?
Once you understand that insecurity of your ego, you can begin fixing it.
CAN YOU PLEASE STOP JUDGING “YOURSELF?”
Oh! This is a good one and for most parts, absolutely true. Criticizing yourself to improve on something is entirely different than going to the max level and magnifying every insecurity you have about yourself.
Nobody loves me.
I look horrible in these pants!
My job sucks!
OMG! I’m so fat.
We use judging to drown out that voice, to tell it, “See? Other people suck too, even worse than I do!” The solution is to stay positive and optimistic by simply changing your state of mind, you can automatically stop yourself from being judgmental.
UNDERSTAND YOUR TRIGGERS
So your not a pudgy person, but sometimes you just do it while the other times you don’t bother. Ever wonder why that is?
Try to figure out what exactly you were feeling that was contributing to your need to judge. Were you feeling emotional, physically drained – what? So next time you find yourself judging someone, try to understand your mood, your physical state, the time of day, and everything else.
Are you extra judgmental when you’re stressed, when you’re sleepy, when you’re around a certain person, or something else? By learning these habits you might just open new and healthy mental pathways for yourself.
HELP INSTEAD OF JUDGING OTHERS
When we think or feel something is wrong with another person, we judge them and it could be from the way they dress, look, smell, or something wrong that they said or did.
So we keep our negative thoughts to ourselves and use these thoughts to undermine. The idea is to not keep keep those thoughts to yourself. Learn how to use them proactively, helping people who might not be aware of the things that are making others judge them.
Be the one person in someone’s life who has the guts to help them rather than judge them and gossip about them, and you will positively impact, not just them, but yourself as well.
PRACTICE MINDFULNESS
Being mindful means that you are aware of your presence, the things around you and your thoughts. And when you’re judging someone, those kind of bitter feelings generally stem from an unstable state of mind. So, for you to become in tune with your surroundings and others, you are signaling your body of what is truly important and how you feel and dealing with it, instead of projecting it onto others.
REMEMBER EVERYONE’S GOING THROUGH SOMETHING
I think this is the key takeaway from everything that we see, hear, read that is negatively impacting everyone. We’re all silently dealing with battles, experiencing trauma and tragedies and finding our ways without anyone else knowing it. So, don’t be so quick to judge anyone and remember that they’re also doing their best JUST LIKE YOU ARE!
Remember that regardless of how it looks, even the smallest acts can be personal victories for those who are doing it. Don’t be the kind of person who makes other people feel negative for doing things they want to do, even if they’re doing it badly. You wouldn’t want anyone to judge you when you’re doing your best, right?
BE OPEN TO MEETING NEW PEOPLE
The smaller the circle of friends you have, you, unconsciously believe that people can only behave in a certain way because your analysis and data is based ON YOUR CIRCLE. And you quickly start assuming that, that’s how everyone’s going to be, hence the judgement. Which is why it’s a great idea to be open to meeting new people, broaden your horizons by simply opening yourself to the lives of the kinds of people you’ve never crossed paths with in your life. You’ll soon realize they’re just people, like you and the people you love, and there’s no reason why they don’t deserve your love as well.
