If you go to GOOGLE for all your questions about relationships, then you’re not alone. It’s the most trending topic on the world wide web. So, we decided to look for the most asked questions so far in 2019 and decided to give our advice on love, marriage and relationships.
Disclaimer: what we say here is not the last word, we all have our own ideas and experiences, however the universal explanation is always the same, So we will tell you what we deem is best and wish you all the best.
Q. I JUST FOUND OUT THAT MY HUSBAND IS CHEATING ON ME, SHOULD I CONFRONT HIM?
A. If you’ve found out that your partner is cheating on you, don’t make a mental list of questions in your head like; what will I do now? where will I go? if i continue this relationship with him, how will I be able to trust him? etc… TALK TO HIM. Honestly, our patriarchal society has given men a (by-default) right to throw their hands up in the air and play the victim card, so be prepared to address his rage and insecurities, listen to him carefully and don’t assume you know everything and ask him to be truthful to you no matter how agonizing the truth may be. Lastly, take some time out, think about everything by weighing all the odds and make a decision.
Q. I THINK MY BEST FRIEND IS IN LOVE WITH ME, BUT HE/SHE HASN’T MADE THE FIRST MOVE YET. SO HOW CAN I BE SURE?
A. First of all, your question begs us to think that you also have an interest in your best friend, so we’re going to answer it this way. If you are also interested in your best friend then before you make a move or she expresses her feelings for you, you need to be sure of HOW YOU FEEL FOR HER. There’s a difference between “being interested” and “being in love” with someone, especially if that involves someone who means the world to you. So, before either of you go on to wreck this beautiful relationship, think and once you know how you feel, (and if its love) – love and never let each other go.
Q. I WAS IN A “X” YEAR LONG RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE BUT HE BROKE MY HEART, NOW I’VE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH A NEW GUY BUT I DON’T KNOW HOW TO TRUST HIM. HOW CAN I RE-BUILD MY TRUST?
A. Before you worry about rebuilding trust in your new relationship, you need to focus on healing yourself from the hurt and the pain that with the unfaithfulness from your ex. Focus on what you want from your current relationship whilst letting your partner making efforts to earn it. For a healthy relationship, it is extremely important to find yourself in a safe place in your life where you open to letting new people come in your life. Nothing happens over night, especially #forgiveness – everything takes time and the amount of time you’ll take will differ considering the person and the situation because working on your inner emotions will aid you in accepting what happened. Even though it doesn’t make you okay with the fact that your trust has been broken and you are hurting beyond measure, but it makes you okay to move forward so you can heal and that’s what matters before anything else since the rest comes later.
Q. PLEASE GIVE ME TIPS ON MAINTAINING A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
A. 3 words: communication, trust and honesty – if you have all these things in your relationship, then you shouldn’t worry about your bond crumbling because of geography.
Q. HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A RELATIONSHIP IS TOXIC?
A. First of all, toxic relationships can destroy your emotional and mental well being and secondly there are SIGNS – always. But we often ignore them in the name of love and that’s when you are getting in trouble. Signs like; when they are dishonest, are constantly manipulating you, drain you of all the positive energy, make you feel trapped and uncomfortable, gaslight you, make you want to apologise for every little thing – I could go on forever. When you see this happening, that’s your cue to RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.